Before I got married to Juan, I had this idea that once a woman is married, she no longer have the freedom to do things solo. It was BEFORE. 

Then fast forward to today. I still managed to do things I love either with my friends or alone. There's still a level of freedom I get to enjoy.

When you got married, the daily chores that you do with your spouse can turn into a routine. So being able to do our own separate thing can sometimes be good . You don't want things to be so normal that you don't look forward to seeing each other everyday for the next 30 years. A breather, they call it.

Juan and I don't mix our friends together except that coincidentally, some of his colleagues are my ex-colleague too, which is a bonus point so we have things to talk whenever we meet. When I go out with my friends, I hardly bring him along. The industry that I work in is total opposite of what Juan does. Furthermore, the topics that we discuss may not be in the interest of Juan. When I'm out with my friends, Juan gets his lonesome time alone. He can watch his anime cartoons *which I don't get why their faces look all alike*. We sometimes fight over who wants to watch which channel. We do, like seriously.

Oohh, I'm off to a movie with a friend. Bye.

Happy Malaysia Day people.

I believe everyone of us are working husbands and working wives. So at times, all you want to do when you get home is put your feet up and not talking to anyone. Well, that include me.

As both of us sail in marriage boat, we try to make the relationship more exciting. You know, as years goes by, things become more routine for most husband and wife. We try to avoid that. The fact that Juan respects me in many ways, made me feel like I have the responsibilities to make the effort too. I was afraid that when me and Juan got married, things gonna be a bit bland as both of us dated for less than a year before we decided to take the plunge but with God's grace, things fall into places and worked out fine. Everything happened so quickly that by the time we know, the witnesses from my nikah has already announced that we're husband and wife.

Sometimes, when it's the peak period of the year, me and Juan are busy at work that we I tend to bring the work stress home. I know, I know, that's a wrong thing to do. But I can't deny that I'm an ordinary human being. Work stress could be one of the many reasons that can cause a marriage to fail. Juan is good at handling stress but as for me, I suck at it. I kid you not. One minute I can be as friendly as my pet turtle, the next thing you know, the tables are all terbalik. let's not go to the part when I'm having my monthly thingy. It's even worst.

So what we do before both of us go to bed is, asking each other's day. Since I'm not well verse with his job scope, I'll ask Juan how was his lunch, gossips. As I used to work in the same company as Juan (let's not go to the part on how we met), so I know most of his circle of friends.

Sometimes, when we talked halfway, he'll answer me with his eyes closed. That will be our next day topic. Yes, women remembers.

 

It has been a stressful time for the past few weeks. Between juggling my day job and my personal work, I tell you, it has not been an easy one. I've been having mood swing with people around me. Running everywhere to get things done. But I enjoyed it.

On the other hand, Dianah is back  for her semester break. Well, it also means a messy house :-(. But it's only temporary. I think I can live with that, or can't I? My parents are back here....again to pick Dianah up from the airport. Reason being she arrived on a weekday, so it was not convenient for me. 

Since I've been so stressful for the past weeks, Juan decided to bring me out last weekend. It was weird to hear him say 'Let's go out' because most of the time, this type of conversation is normally made by me. We were walking around the malls, having lunch and got home. Just that and I did not purchase anything *pat on my back*

(wearing scarf from Scarf.Story)