The Human Rabbit

The death of family dinner : Sek Fan

relationship 12:30:00 PM

It was 7.45 am and I was getting myself ready while listening to the radio.

"What has changed when it comes to family dinner?"

There was one particular caller. A man. He said that he rarely have time for family dinner and because he stays separately, it gets even harder for him to stop by his parent's place.

"I normally have dinner and skype with my parents at the same time. As if I was there but virtually"

I stopped and thought. What has happened? We have come to a point where we're so distracted by others that we forget what's more important in life.

Our parents were once working adult but they made time for us no matter how busy they were. The Generation X emphasize a lot about family ties and I believe that many of us here were brought up from a close knitted family including myself.

When I was young, I used to have my dinner in front of the TV and my parents? They sat at the dinner table. My sister does that too. Used to. My dad has always asked us to sit together because dinner time is the only time when everyone is at home. Being a teenager I was at that time, I ignored.

As I moved out of my parent's house to continue my education, I started missing having the family around. When I was away, either I'll pack my food home or dinner with friends. The feeling gets stronger during Ramadhan. When your friends from the city you lived in has their own family to break fast with. It was definitely a lonely moment.

It's heart breaking to see the generation today. Generation of material people. I've had a few friends who thinks that they do not have the time to see their parents even during weekends. I'm trying to understand on where their time spent. But I do bumped some of them in malls. Ironically they said they didn't have the time but ...you know.

It's easy for us to forget things and it's easy to think that parents are okay when we don't come home for dinner. The hardship that we had to go through in today's modern world cannot be compared to what our parents had to go through in the old days. They had to start from scratch. So sitting down with them for a nice meal is the least we can do. Because at the end of the day, when you lose your job and when you lose your friends, the first thing you'll do is turning to your parents support.

Family is Forever.

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beauty 9:39:00 AM

Friday love: Why $ is not important

friday love 8:22:00 AM

I was on Facebook and Humans of Kuala Lumpur was one of my many liked pages. It all started from Humans of New York. I like reading and listening to people's experience. You learn so much from them you know. We think (Generation Y) that what we have now are because of the hard work we put in. It is actually the effort of our great grand parents.

So as I was scrolling the pages in Humans of Kuala Lumpur, one particular uncle caught my attention.

I was one of those people who thinks money will make your parents happy. At one point, all I did was work, work and work. During the weekdays, I attend classes, go to work after class until midnite. I work during weekends too and during festive seasons. My parents were very understanding att hat time but my mum will normally think that festive season is about spending time with your family but I had to reasoned with her. Sometimes, I didn't pick her calls on the day that I was supposed to be home for Hari Raya or Chinese New year.

I skipped a few trip back last time to celebrate with them cause my focus was to get my triple pay. That was what I thought. I was focusing on the wrong thing (although $ was important) that by the time I realized how important family are, my sister is leaving for her A-level study. That was how fast time flew.

So as I realized what I did was wrong, I started to shift my goal and objectives. making amendment here and there. Wrong in the sense that my focus was more on the material wise.

Many years after into the real working world, I started to learn how to balance between family and work. I do my work within my 8 hours work time and avoid staying back in the office. During the weekends, if not necessary, I don't switch on my work laptop. I go back to my parent's place at least once a month.

As my dad has to fund my sister's education using his own savings, I try helping as much as I can and try to work things out in between. Juan was very supportive of this because he understands the situation and he too tried helping in ways he can.

Now that I realize my sister is growing up so fast and age is catching up sooner to my parents, I'm glad to say that I was given the turnaround point at a very early stage. At least I get to catch up the lost time with my family.