The Human Rabbit

I believe that a question that will always be the topic in every wedding you attend or perhaps you're the bride and groom, 'Can have kids d lor after this'. Cliche, I know. Been there and currently still going through it. I have people asking me 'Ei, got d ar?'.

Well, it's never and will never be the first or last time. I used to be that nosy person of asking people 'So when you wanna have kids ar?'. Often actually until I stumbled an article about why you don't ask married people this question.

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I have been married for eermmm....around 8 months now but I still don't have bun in the oven...Layman's term...pregnant. Reason being, I'm not mentally prepared plus having babies are expensive. Things are different compare to the olden days. In the olden days, majority don't take out their calculator to have rough estimation of how much will it cost to have A baby. People don't go around asking other mothers, which hospital is the cheapest or affordable. But now, including me, they do.

Everybody wants to have children of their own. Who on earth doesn't? If you hear a woman says 'Don't want kids la forever'. She's lying. Every woman has been instilled with that motherly instinct .

Apart from financially, an individual has to be mentally ready to have small feet crying in the middle of the night for milk or running around the house especially working mothers. Now, don't say 'other mothers also working what'. God created different facial shape, different body shape as well as different mentality. What does it mean? It means people are different.

Yah, yah, I've heard 'You'll never be ready for anything'. I am me and you're you. Everyone has the ability to identify your own emotion and physical strength. So you know your own capability, so do I.

Yes, I've heard 'anak itu rezeki Tuhan' too but sometimes, God works in a mysterious way. Rezeki can come in many forms even though you don't have kids. Children is an extra blessing, that I don't deny. Or, perhaps, not because of financial burden that a couple doesn't want to have kids, but instead, emotional state?

Seriously, it takes a lot to be a mother. I was 10 when I had a sister. 10 is an age where you have the ability to remember things. So I have seen the things my mother had to go through when carrying my sister. Plus, babies are a lifetime commitment. You can't sell babies like real estate. You can tell people 'Ala, sakit kejap ja' or 'When you see your babies face, all the pain will go away'.

You know, there will come a time where 'Ok, let's have kids'. I want to have kids. If not, why do I bother to get married? Just the sake of making it legal?

Again, different people has different plans as married couple. People appreciate the concerns you have but let time decide and let things flow as what He has plan for them. Insyaallah, one day, there'll be small feet running around the house.

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The Wedding Chapter : Wedding Planner

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I believe that bumping into Dnas Qaseh wedding planner was no coincidence. Perhaps it was fate.

When I started planning for this wedding, I have a budget in my mind. That it will not exceed 20k. With the budget that I had in mind, I begun scouting for a wedding planner.

If you have many family members or siblings, uncles or aunties who stay around your location or maybe the same state, wedding planner is not necessary. But because my mum and dad were not locals, we had to get help.

My dad had a few co-workers who used to work with him last time, staying around. They actually helped a few things too.

I had a few ideas in my mind. I wanted to combine the element of traditional with a little twist of modern into the wedding outfit. So, Scha Al-Yahya wedding outfit was my inspiration. I had 2 fitting session and even on the day of the reception, some amendment had to be made in the hotel suite itself *who said I grew fats?*.

Although my outfit was modern + traditional, I wanted to retain the traditional style in the groom's outfit. With the tengkolok and keris on him. I knew what I wanted because I had everything written in my organiser. From the color of the fabric for my outfit to the color of the deco for the wedding dinner. I made it easy for both the hotel event manager as well as the wedding planner.

As for the pelamin, my mum specifically requested to have the traditional bench made of kayu jati. So my wedding planner had to use the one she had at home.

There are a few things consider when hiring a wedding planner:

1. Know your budget. This is the most important element even before your start planning for your wedding. Most wedding planner are flexible enough to play around with your budget. The cost to hire a wedding planner in the city will definitely be higher from the suburb.

2. Things will be easier if you have a rough idea on how would you like your wedding to look like. Perhaps, you can start with the theme and color scheme.

3. Prior to meeting your wedding planner, jot down your inspirations in a book or keep it somewhere in your phone. Show it to your wedding planner. Perhaps the combination of your idea and your wedding planner's idea would create a much better outcome. Above your expectations.

4. As a girl, especially, you tend to add the unnecessary little things for your wedding. Everyone wants to have fairy tale wedding but let's be realistic, not everyone can afford it. If you have a budget to stick to, keep it within that limit. Some things are not necessary or perhaps if you are creative enough, you can DIY.

5. Meet your wedding planner prior to your wedding date to discuss on the details again. Your deco, your outfit and whatever that is necessary. This is to make sure both side are on the same page.

Lastly, don't FORGET TO LEAVE SOME FOOD FOR THEM.