It's never what you have but who you have in your life that matters. As long as the Almighty is your centre of focus, success will follow.

~Mufti Ismail Menk

So I went for my facial session after soooo long. Seriously, like wayyy too long. This time, it doesn't require any help from Groupon . I'm a total cheap skate when it comes to this. It was a dermatologist that I bumped to when me and Juan were on our way to tapau our sahur.

I walked in and was surprised with the price. It was reasonable. There were many types of facial but I chose the basic facial. Wanted to give it a try first before I become their regular customer. What I like first about this place is that it is located nearby to my place. So I don't have to drive way into town just to get my Groupon facial. By the time I reach my facial center in town, I would have thousands of wrinkles on my face due to STRESS. Living in the city is a total STRESS.

The session lasted for a good 2 hours. My face looked much better compared to before I had the facial. All my whitehead and blackhead were removed. I'm one satisfied customer. However, there was one part which I don't quite like in every facial session I attend. The 'promo' session where they'll bring you to a room. Asking how was it, evaluating and explaining about your skin condition and bla,bla, bla. So how do you avoid that?

I hardly say No to people because I will feel bad saying the big N-O in front of their face. I will usually say 'I'll think about it first'. But in this case, I used Juan as a shield. Hahaha. Ok not funny. I said 'Can I discuss with my husband first?'. In this situation, asking Juan means 'No, I'm not interested' but in a nicer way.

So, if you were in my shoes, do you say the No at that moment or you use the same excuse as mine?

I know that having kids are a lifetime commitment. You cannot give up half way through the process. It's like once you're in it, you're in it for life women!. 

Kids are a gift from God. A little human that is very fragile to almost everything. As parents, we're responsible in keeping them safe make sure that we have provide everything possible for them. The best I can say.

I do not have kid of my own but I had the experience of taking care of my sister. Our age gap was 10 at that time so I had the first hand on how it was like. 

As parents, we're afraid of many things. Things that might harm the children or perhaps the uncertainty of what lies in the decision we make for or on behalf of them. I get it cause I saw it in my parents. Fearing of what the society can change their kid into especially social illness.

Well, growing up process takes a lot of experience and patience. Along the process we make mistakes and through these mistakes, we learnt our lesson. It takes a whole lot of patience on the parents side and it can be frustrating at times. It's like you have failed in playing your role as parents in shaping your children to b a better person. As parents, there are a certain limit or level that we can control, the rest of the element comes from the outside. Friends and environment. Small children also observe and then pick up habits that they see from adults. So it is important in making sure that you show good example and walk the talk. 

Kids nowadays are good in reasoning and negotiating, which I think a good thing cause this is part of the creative and critical thinking process BUT up to a certain level.

Setting a good example to your children at a young age is really important. From saying 'thank you' to teaching basic survival skills. Everything has basic rules. That rule has to be a strong foundation, then only your children will not stray from the right path. Even that doesn't guarantee. 

At times, you need to give your children the power in making their own decision but within your guidance. Assist them if you think their decision might have negative impact on them. Don't let your fears rub off to your kids. You need to find common ground with your children or compromise with them. Modern parenting is not about listening to one party like how it used to be in the old days. Modern parenting is about reasoning, explaining, finding common thing, compromising, walking the talk, making decision TOGETHER.

If you think parenting is all about giving a beating of their life, shouting at them, scolding them or ignoring them, then you're wrong. This may cause you to grow apart and in the long run, your children may not respect or see you as their role model.

You can browse FRISO Gold on how to turn a No to Yes, how to find common ground with your children, how to not let your fears affect your children and what compromise is all about, you can view their YouTube story here.

Tell me that you can't resist the new collection from the collaboration of Hana Tajima and UNIQLO.

I.just.can't.resist *pulling husband's hand to Unqilo now*.

You know that Juan will ignore me when I ask when can we shop there. His justifications are 'Do you need it?' or 'You have so many clothes already'. Hello, women will always complain that their wardrobe is not fill with enough clothes. Just try to accept the fact.

My favorite will be this one. The WOMEN Rayon Drape Long Dress

Photo courtesy of Uniqlo

"Not what we say about our blessings, but how we use them, is the true measure of our thanksgiving."

~Anonymous.

The Internet is definitely a powerful tool, if you use it wisely. It covers most aspect of our daily live. However, there is a line or limit to whatever things you post or do online.

Today, a 4 year old kid can easily have access to the world wide web. Even worst, if the kid browse through the Internet without any supervision from the grow ups.

The social media is a platform where, I believe, a place to share good things or information that is useful as reference. There is a fine line between posting an info that might get you into trouble or perhaps a post that might offend people around you.

For example, if you were to post something bad about your company, you'll never if someone in your friend list is indeed a friend to your boss too. The world is a small place. You'll never know what to expect.

Before posting up any photos or status on your social media, ask yourself if this is the right thing to do. Think about if the thing you post might be offensive or perhaps inappropriate. Let's all #klikdenganbijak and make the Internet a safe place for everyone to explore and gain knowledge.

Click here to see The 8 Types Of People Who Share Too Much Information On Social Media

Don't mock those who start practising in Ramadan, this might be their turning point just like you had yours one day.

~Dr. Bilal Philips

So how has things been after my hijrah?

Well to be honest, it was nothing like how I'd imagine. people come asking me all type of questions (except my non-Muslim friends). Or people give me the weird look. Perhaps I was not popular in the office. Well, the good side of it, I could walk along the walkway with ease.

But I did encountered with a question which I think no one should ever asked. "So pakai untuk bulan Ramadhan je ke?" Tell me, what do you say to a person who just changed into a new leaf? Do you say "Eh, nampak cantik" or "Amboi lawanya" or "Alhamdulillah dah bertudung". People are so hard to please but then again, I think for whom did make this change? I kept reminding myself over and over again.

Sometimes question like this make you think for a second "Am I not worthy to change?" I know it's a psychological thing but the person who has to go through it may feel it differently.

Words are sharper than knives. I told you've heard this saying somewhere.