It was easier back then to divide my time between my family and friends. But when I got married, I had to juggle 3 things. Family, Juan and friends. It didn't make much of a different cause Juan is the understanding type where I STILL get to meet my girl friends every once a month. I believe in taking a break from each other. A breather I say. Distance makes the heart grow fonder. Cewah..
So even before we have kids, we've already plan how things gonna turn out. Juan and I will take turn in taking care of the baby whenever one of us is out with friends. A break actually. That was the plan and I know it is hard to PLAN around babies. They're so unpredictable. At least we did talk about it.
So whenever my parents are down, I make sure that I accommodate to them. I cancel whatever plan I have OR I plan according to their date of arrival. Reason being I rarely see them although I go back to my parent's place every once a month but it's just the weekend. Normally I prefer staying at home and lazing around in my room doing nothing. No plans except indulging in my favorite food.
I don't believe when most people say they don't have time for family or friends. You're given 24 hours in a day so it is sufficient enough for you to plan around that time. It's a matter of putting effort for the people your care and important in your life. I had too much things to think of nowadays that I just keep friends who are worthy of staying. Time is too short to please everyone when you're the only one who has to give in all the time.