I believe that a question that will always be the topic in every wedding you attend or perhaps you're the bride and groom, 'Can have kids d lor after this'. Cliche, I know. Been there and currently still going through it. I have people asking me 'Ei, got d ar?'.

Well, it's never and will never be the first or last time. I used to be that nosy person of asking people 'So when you wanna have kids ar?'. Often actually until I stumbled an article about why you don't ask married people this question.

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I have been married for eermmm....around 8 months now but I still don't have bun in the oven...Layman's term...pregnant. Reason being, I'm not mentally prepared plus having babies are expensive. Things are different compare to the olden days. In the olden days, majority don't take out their calculator to have rough estimation of how much will it cost to have A baby. People don't go around asking other mothers, which hospital is the cheapest or affordable. But now, including me, they do.

Everybody wants to have children of their own. Who on earth doesn't? If you hear a woman says 'Don't want kids la forever'. She's lying. Every woman has been instilled with that motherly instinct . 

Apart from financially, an individual has to be mentally ready to have small feet crying in the middle of the night for milk or running around the house especially working mothers. Now, don't say 'other mothers also working what'. God created different facial shape, different body shape as well as different mentality. What does it mean? It means people are different.

Yah, yah, I've heard 'You'll never be ready for anything'. I am me and you're you. Everyone has the ability to identify your own emotion and physical strength. So you know your own capability, so do I.

Yes, I've heard 'anak itu rezeki Tuhan' too but sometimes, God works in a mysterious way. Rezeki can come in many forms even though you don't have kids. Children is an extra blessing, that I don't deny. Or, perhaps, not because of financial burden that a couple doesn't want to have kids, but instead, emotional state?

Seriously, it takes a lot to be a mother. I was 10 when I had a sister. 10 is an age where you have the ability to remember things. So I have seen the things my mother had to go through when carrying my sister. Plus, babies are a lifetime commitment. You can't sell babies like real estate. You can tell people 'Ala, sakit kejap ja' or 'When you see your babies face, all the pain will go away'.

You know, there will come a time where 'Ok, let's have kids'. I want to have kids. If not, why do I bother to get married? Just the sake of making it legal?

Again, different people has different plans as married couple. People appreciate the concerns you have but let time decide and let things flow as what He has plan for them. Insyaallah, one day, there'll be small feet running around the house.

 The wedding plan started a year before the actual date. In fact, it was before we set the exact date *being a perfectionist*. Basically I already had an idea how my wedding will look like. One thing for sure, I wanted something very traditional. From the interior of the hotel ballroom to my hantaran baskets to my reception outfit. My mum wanted something bright, that was the reason why the songket was to be red.

The groom side was more of a simple and leisure concept. Therefore, we did not customize anything even the outfit. We took a simple wedding package from Putree by Kuang Yee. They provide the dress and the decorations and the luncheon was held at Anjung Budi, USM.

As for my hantaran, I requested for fresh flowers because I wanted something different. I hired Syurga Cinta Abadi who was also a friend of mine who owns a bridal boutique. I specifically told her that I wanted something simple. She created a mock hantaran and sent a photo of it. I agreed and on the day of my nikah, she brought everything along. 

I was absolutely pleased with the outcome. It was what I have imagined and wanted. The base of the hantaran were my own. Made of wood and rattan. 

No. 33, Jalan Kota Permai, Taman Kota Permai, Bukit Mertajam

012-4760334

Because this is a home based business, I suggest that you call to make appointment.

Snooze Too is situated in Brinchang Square and it is a row of shoplots turned into a motel. The furniture are mainly from IKEA so you can actually purchase some of the items. Baby cot is also available upon request but it comes with additional charges.

The interior of the hotel seems to have a bit of a hippie influence. Most of them are made of wood. I'm not so sure on how on earth did they managed to bring in a century old truck into the lobby.